My daughter was born with hypotonia, otherwise known as “low tone.” In layman’s terms, it means she is incredibly flexible and consequently, her joints are very loose. It may not sound like much, but this condition could have resulted in severe deformations had we not addressed things at a young age. For example, we had her fitted by an orthotic specialist so he could make braces for her ankles to hold them straight shortly after her first birthday. Without her braces, she was only able to cruise — and when she stood, it was on the inside of the sides of her feet, with the bottoms of her feet turned outward. For those of you having difficulty with the visual, picture this: her big toes were on the outside of her feet where her pinky toes should have been, and her toenails were face down, rather than facing toward the sky. With her braces, she was literally running across my house within a day — it was amazing! The braces enabled her body to grow into those loose, stretched-out ligaments, allowed the muscles to strengthen, and facilitated permanent upright walking.
While we welcomed the braces and the benefits they provided; the lingering problem was how slow the process was — my daughter was wearing them for five years and did not progress beyond the braces until she was six. While it may not sound like much to worry about, there were little bumps along the way that made us look forward to the end of her wearing braces on her legs. Most notably among those bumps in the road were her shoes. Her braces were bulky, and forced us to buy sizes that were bigger. They were also made of a hard plastic that didn’t breathe, thus my daughter always had to wear socks regardless of the weather. Additionally, we were limited on our choice of sandals during the summer because the sandals had to have enough available adjustments to accommodate the braces comfortably, while still accommodating her constantly growing feet. The end result was that my daughter ended up wearing boy sandals for years during warmer weather because girl sandals never met the requirements to accommodate her braces.
Fast forward to the first pair of summer sandals we purchased for my daughter after she had progressed beyond her braces and you find my daughter giddy over obtaining a pair of Sketchers “Bob’s” for young girls. The shoes were pink and sparkly and had a single strap over the arch of her foot near her ankle to secure her foot into a mostly open shoe. I was under the impression we were looking for summer sandals and here we were, about to purchase “Bob’s.” They’re not quite a sandal and not quite a shoe, and like most hybrid designs they kind of failed as both. No amount of talking from her father could change her mind (or her mother’s mind, for that matter). It didn’t matter that I insisted she wear socks with them, because she was convinced that she could wear them without — probably because my wife had also assured her she could wear her new “sandals” without socks (something I did not discover until later). When we arrived home, she wanted to wear her new shoes. She really wanted to wear them without socks as well. I insisted she wear socks and would hear nothing else about it. I explained to her that feet sweat a lot (especially feet from my gene pool) and socks were one of the only ways to ensure our shoes didn’t get soaked with sweat and stink like a men’s locker room.
Then the inevitable happened: my wife allowed my daughter to wear her brand new “Bob’s” without socks and without my knowledge. It was purposefully done behind my back because of my aforementioned stance on wearing socks. Naturally, she perspired significantly and soaked her shoes. When she arrived home after a few hours of “mother/daughter time,” she kicked off her “Bob’s,” put them under her bed, and took a nap. Her mother had worn her out on a hot day, and she was only six, so a quality nap was welcomed by all.
I need to take a moment to mention that at the time, we lived in the high desert. It gets really hot, and it can get cold as well. When the weather makes a significant change, spiders would routinely appear in the house. Everything from Daddy Long Legs to Brown Recluses would be indoors. When we had a dog and cat, these spider cameos were usually short-lived, though they happened regularly enough for my children to be aware of it. Perhaps it was the sudden end our pets brought along that made these arachnid cameos memorable. I obviously cannot say for sure, but it is clear to me that my children remember much more than I expect them to.
After my daughter’s nap, she met me in the kitchen. She had clearly just woken up as her hair was a bit out of place, though her mind seemed quite alert — she had shaken off the “I just woke up” grogginess. Her face was intense with thought and alight with excitement; she had something she needed to get off her chest.
“Daddy! Before I took a nap, I took off my new sandals and put them under my bed,” she advised me, apparently building toward something greater. “When I woke up, I checked them, and it is wet inside them!” She delivered this declaration with wide, sparkling eyes that touched me deeply, the way only my daughter can. Perhaps that is why it took me a split-second longer than usual to gather my thoughts and respond properly. Or perhaps fate stepped in, because as I was mentally preparing my “your shoes are wet because it was a hot day and you wore your new shoes without socks the way I specifically told you not to” speech (basically, my “I told you so” speech), she offered her own hypothesis, all while wearing the most curious, inquisitive expression.
“I’ve been seeing spiders under my bed, and I think they must have peed in my shoes while I was asleep.”
She was completely serious. I do not know how I was able to maintain my composure, but evidently, I must have. I know my face most likely broke into a grin — at least for a split second — though in her moment of deep thought, she completely missed it. Luck was definitely on my side. I carefully explained to her that, as sound as her spiders-peed-in-her-shoes theory was, it was more likely that not wearing socks had caused perspiration from her feet to be absorbed entirely by her shoes, thus they were still damp hours later. I also explained to her that had she worn socks as I had insisted she always do with those shoes when we purchased them, it probably would not have been as bad. She intimated that she understood, and the story would be amusing had it ended there — but it didn’t end there because a thought struck me: her mother was home and I could have some fun.
“Why don’t we ask your mother and see what she thinks?” I asked her, and she readily agreed. My wife happened to be walking toward the kitchen, where my daughter and I had been having our discussion. I should take a moment to note that I had already had the “I told you so” discussion with my wife while my daughter had been napping because my wife had complained about our daughter’s foot odor resulting from not wearing socks. Naturally, my wife agreed with me regarding socks moving forward and agreed to have that discussion with our daughter at the conclusion of her nap. Fast forward to my daughter telling my wife that she woke up to wet shoes under her bed after her nap. My wife tried to cut her off (not in a rude way, but in a parental way) and provide the valid explanation, but I stopped her from proceeding.
“Why don’t you allow your daughter to finish her thought before you cut across her?” I advised politely, but firmly. As my daughter’s back was turned, I attempted to convey to my wife, with a meaningful glance, that she wanted to hear the story, and hoped my face didn’t give away too much.
“You’re right,” my wife told me, “go ahead, mija. Finish your story,” she said in a thoughtful tone. “You took off your shoes and put them under your bed before your nap, and when you woke up, your shoes were wet. Go ahead.”
“Well,” said my daughter as if no interruption had taken place, “there have been spiders in my room a lot, lately. And when I woke up from my nap, my shoes were wet,” she said with emphasis as if it were her first recanting of the story. “I think the spiders under my bed must have peed in my shoes while I was sleeping!”
My wife was blindsided. Unlike me, she was completely unable to contain her amusement. She burst into instant, hysterical laughter. It was predictable, but like a classic line in a film, it was welcomed, embraced, and thoroughly appreciated. The three of us laughed healthily and heartily. To be a six-year-old child is something few of us can remember. Spiders must have peed in her shoes during her nap and that’s why her shoes were wet after her shoes had spent the entirety of her nap under the bed. Of course they did, those pesky spiders. Of course they did.
